Growth is hard.
It really is. Because when you grow, you leave things behind, even people. But people who don't grow, or grow at a different pace than you, or in a different direction that you get offended when you don't stay the same.
It kind of like someone buying you a pair of Unicorn slippers for Christmas because they know you love unicorns, even though you haven't loved unicorns since you were 12.
Ok, that was a crappy analogy, but you know what I mean. I'm not the same girl I always was - heck, I'm not the same girl I was yesterday.
Just because something resonates with you doesn't mean it resonates with me. And just because something from a certain "category" resonates with me, doesn't mean I fully fit into said category. I've said before that I don't like boxes and have spent my whole life trying to find the one I fit into (only to realize that boxes are for the birds).
Things that are important to you may not be important to me and vice versa, and guess what? That's OKAY. I promise.
I've been searching for how to deal with leaving people behind who can't be left behind, if that makes any sense. People who are around for the long haul, but that you've outgrown, or can't connect to anymore.
See, I've never been good at bullshitting. Actually, that's probably one of the things that I'm the worst at in life. I don't care about that sports team, or your makeup, or how the weather is, or what so and so is up to. And I have a really hard time engaging in things I don't care about/don't agree with/don't believe in. I don't have to proclaim my view, but I can't really fake in sharing yours very well, so I always flounder around until I fall silent.
Well, a friend taught me the PERFECT response to for moments like that:
good
for
you.
That's it.
Good for you.
Isn't it wonderful?
This way, I'm not compromising my beliefs by lying and I'm not being rude by not reacting.
Good for you.
You have a different religion? Good for you.
You love so and so? Good for you.
You're fighting to save the sea turtles? Good for you.
You got a new car? Good for you.
You're selling all your belongings and backpacking across Europe? Good for you.
You got your nails done? Good for you.
You're going vegan? Good for you.
See? You have no idea whether I believe in what you're doing or not, because I'm not agreeing with you, but I'm not judging you either.
Imagine a world where we used good for you rather than judging each other, or feeling like we've betrayed ourselves by faking it to our friends and family.
Give it a try. See how it works for you.
I think you'll find it's the perfect way to keep things kind.
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